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10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have
10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

Women over 40 are no longer fighting aging but now embracing this new stage in our lives.  The 40’s once known as “dreaded” now more commonly praised as the fabulous 40’s. And as we enter our 40’s we start noticing three things about ourselves; Our growing intolerance for bullshit, the need for a more comfortable yet stylish footwear and the ever-changing needs of our maturing skin.

But what makes our 40’s different from our mother’s counterpart, is we are now realizing that aging is natural.  Women want to look the best we can at the age that we are. For example, you don’t want to look like an “overdone” 49-year old.  Yes, we all know her, the poor woman who has been convinced to do “just one more procedure.”  No,  we want people to look at us and say, “she looks amazing at 49.”

We are also figuring out that prevention is the key to aging fabulously. This being said, prevention is not always an easy feat after years of abuse and hormonal imbalances we struggle with now.  Our 40’s complexion can one day be compared to a teen fighting acne, and the next we are slathering on moisturizer because our it feels like the Sahara void of all moisture. All the while, resisting the urge to dip into your kids’ college funds for lotions and potions promising to reverse the years of damage done from baby oil and iodine in the 80’s halting the formation of crows feet, jowls and other ghastly things with adjectives, that I’m sure a man monikered, because who else would be so utterly negative and brash to use such ridiculous words like …jowls, furrows, and crows feet,

Because of this widespread problem so many of us women in our 40’s face, not knowing which lotions and potions, do-dads, and gadgets to purchase, I a self-proclaimed “facial preservationist” who vows to age fabulously have come up with 10 simple and affordable beauty items every woman over 40 must own!

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

CC Cream

Throw those powder foundations from your 30’s away. The powder will set in your fine lines and creases and age your beautiful 40 something face. Find a good CC or creme foundation. CC Creams are known for their multitasking abilities. They contain an SPF and serum. I personally find them magical and I don’t know what I ever did without them. Most day’s I wear my CC Cream and nothing else because it just evens my complexion out. My personal favorite for years has been “It Cosmetics” CC Cream. When I wear it people stop me in the store to compliment my skin.

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

Creme Blush

Creme Blush is versatile. I prefer a chubby creme stick to a pot because I love a good multitasker. When blush is in a stick form you can use as a touch of color to your lip also. After you apply your cc, just dab a few dots on your apples and blend with a sponge blender. You will immediately glow dahling…The Nars Multiple Stick is the bee’s knees!  It doubles as a lip, cheek wherever you need a little rosie pick-me up!

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

Shimmer Pencil

I learned this trick from youtube tutorial of course. And what did we ever do before tutorials?! My entire high school experience would have been different, enough said. Dab a dot on your tear duct (not in) and on your inner lid for an immediate awake look, you can thank YouTube and me later 😉  I am using the Becca Highlighting pencil, but It has been discontinued, such is life.  I found a budget-friendly alternative coming in at only $14 from Sephora! 


A Funny story my 17-year-old daughter tried to teach me how to “strobe” with her highlighter stick. Honey sit down, mama has been highlighting for thirty plus years. I dab a few dots on my cheekbones, tip of the nose, cupid’s bow, chin and brow bones for an immediate glow all year around. My all-time favorite highlighter is Clinique’s Chubby Stick 

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

Black Mascara

YES, black all the time, and the blacker the better. *Mascara hack- dust your lashes with setting powder first and the mascara will set thicker. If you leave the house with just one thing let it be mascara always.  A budget-friendly fav of mine is always Loreal’s Lash Paradise, at around $6 it never disappoints even the pickiest beauty blogger.  And a luxury cult favorite for years is DiorShow,  many have come since, but I always seem to go back to it.

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

Rose Lip Color

“I used to have lips” I caught my self-staring in the mirror uttering the other day. Where do they go as you get older? They must have run off with the single socks from the dryer…So invest in a good long wearing and moisturizing rose that is one tone darker than your own lip. I use and love the Neutrogena Moisturizing Lip pencils they last forever and don’t dry out your pout!

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have
Brow Pencil/Mascara

Brows frame our face and can make or break you. If they are too heavy that’s all you see on someone and if they are too light, well you end up looking like powder. And as we get older the brows to go to the same place that the lips go, I think. They thin out and never come back. If you don’t want to invest in micro-blading or if your chicken like me, just go pick up a good brown brow mascara with fibers to thicken and do not over pluck, those babies will not grow back one day trust me. A good pocket-friendly option is the Loreal Brow Stylist it thickens without being too cakey, I wear this daily!
10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have


Moisturize, Moisturize, Moisturize! If you remember one thing from me and all of my “wannabe wisdom” let that be it, ladies! Even if you have bipolar skin like me with an oily, breakout prone T-zone you still want to moisturize, just maybe with a lighter alternative like a serum or oil-free moisturizer.  This Olay Regenerist Face Serum contains collagen for plumping action and at only $16 is a steal!

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have
Hydrating Face Masks

Facemasks are great once a week thirst quencher for your skin. I make it a routine so I don’t forget, every Sunday I can be found making “Big Sunday Breakfast” with a sheet mask on. My preference is a facemask that contains hydrogel, it’s similar to a silicone-like feeling and helps the mask contents absorb that much better.  Afterward, my skin feels like a babies tush. I often find Lux closeout brand facemasks at Marshalls and TJMaxx for $2-3 versus $7-8.  Here is a budget-friendly containing a double bonus hydraulic acid, stem cells, PLUS  hydrogel!
10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

Acids, Peels, Retinoids OH MY!

Were baby oil, Iodine, and sun your best friend in the 80’s and 90’s like me? Don’t fret, there are so many great OTC products out there these days, You can reverse a lot of the minor sun damage and discolorations at home with glycolic and lactic acids as well as retinoids. They work by promoting cell turnover and the creation of new collagen aka new skin turnover. But tread lightly, you can do damage if not careful and cause scarring. Consult a dermatologist and always wear an SPF when using any sort of peels or acids in your skin routine. Start gently with an OTC containing glycolic for a gentle slow peel at first like these Bright Reveal peel pads by Loreal.

10 Beauty Items Women over 40 Must Have

No more damage!

Hats and spf! To avoid any further damage and skin discoloration always use an SPF in your routine. Pick a facial SPF over 30. Never leave home without it, and not only on your face but your neck shoulders, decollete, and hands. Our face isn’t the only part of us that has to age fabulously!  Further damage prevention is so important, we are trying to correct our bad deeds from our silly reckless days, rebuild collagen, so it is especially important we don’t add any further work for our bodies or our dermatologists to deal with.  Also, very if not the most important get checked yearly for skin cancer my sister friends, in 2018 there will be almost 200,000 new cases of skin cancer diagnosed in the United States alone.  Here is your’s truly this year on vaca in my favorite hat.  I still do love the sun but I am smarter about it!

10 Beauty Items Every Woman over 40 Must Have

Aging Fabulously doesn’t have to be painful or expensive mama’s!  Do you have any favorite products or tips?  I would love to hear from you! Drop me a note in comments!


Do Satin Pillowcases work?  This was just one of the billions of beauty mysteries nagging at me over the last year.

It’s hard to not feel like you are a toddler on a sugar rush. Incapable of the making even the simplest of decisions when trying to figure out which of the latest and greatest beauty products to invest in.  The beauty market is flooded with new products every day.  Each one claiming to be a “miracle product,” or the “end all.”   Such was the case when debating whether or not to buy a Satin Pillowcase.  Satin pillowcases had been on my beauty radar for the last year but never wanting to take the plunge because of the hefty price tag.  Marshall’s finally forcing my hand when I stumbled across a Luxury Satin Pillowcase marked down to $7.99 from $49.99.  Of course, convincing myself this was too good of a deal to pass up I snatched it up!

The Satin Pillowcase Hype

According to “Shine by Night” Website (the brand of Satin Pillowcase I tried) website the Satin Pillowcase benefits are;

  • Better Hair The SHINE pillowcase’s smooth sleep surface gently interacts with your hair throughout the night to boost hydration and promote healthy hair growth. Say goodnight to bedhead!
  • Better Skin- By repelling pollutants that typically collect on your sleep surface, the SHINE pillowcase will help to keep breakouts to a minimum. The unique satin formula maintains the optimal moisture of your skin to prevent wrinkle formation.
  • Better Sleep SHINE pillowcase’s lightweight satin is designed for optimal airflow, leaving you to sweat free all night long.

Why Satin?

I begged the question, why not silk, why satin?

According to their site, the satin is;

Our satin isn’t just any satin. It is so good we were told it was “too good for bedding.” The satin used to make SHINE pillowcases is 100% charmeuse that’s the finest stuff money can buy.
Ok,  I’ll buy it…Charmeuse.  I don’t know what that is, but it sounds fancy.

Putting the Pillowcase to the Test


Let me first start by saying, put your satin fears aside.  The satin pillowcase is not the same satin bedding you remember from the 80’s and 90’s. Where your biggest concern was possibly sliding off the bed in the middle of the night.  When I first took the satin pillowcase out of the packaging I was delighted to find that it resembles more of a silk than a shiny satin, I’m assuming that is the charmeuse 😉Do Satin Pillowcases Work


The Test

I took one overprocessed head of hair (mine),  a tired 43 -year old (yours truly) and a Satin Pillowcase ( the Shine by Night Satin BeautyPillowcase) and put the Satin Pillowcase to the test, switching out my pillowcase and grabbed a glass of wine and off to the land of nod I went.

Do Satin Pillowcases Work
Your’s Truly Before Bedtime, with somewhat decent hair!

The Results

Better Skin?

I was at best skeptical, of the “better skin” claims.  I’m still quite convinced that satin repels pollutants, but sounds good right?  I will say it really does feel good on your skin.  Although, since I do put a lot of skin care products on my face at night, there was a bit of residue on the pillowcase in the morning.

Better Sleep?

I was terribly afraid of overheating at night, being a victim of the night sweats more often than not in my forties. But I was pleasantly surprised that the satin pillowcase did not get damp or overheated.  I slept great, not once having to wake up and flip my pillow, due to …Ok, I’m just going to say it…sweating like I have an untreated case of Malaria, as is usually the case.

Better Hair?…YES!

I will say that my hair felt AMAZING in the morning!  I attribute that to less friction from the satin. Usually sleeping on high thread count cotton percale myself,  still doesn’t compare to the silkiness of the satin pillowcase.

Do Satin Pillowcases Work
5 am! Post Pillowcase (AWESOME HAIR) Pre-coffee!

Seriously folks, where were these pillowcases when I was dating?  These are a game changer! No more bedhead, no more coyote ugly for you guys (google it) – sorry mom!  I Naturally have frizzy and unruly hair but I woke up looking like I just had a blowout, and that NEVER happens. I think I looked better at 5 am than I did before I went to bed. My hair looked tousled and amazing.  I usually wake up looking like I stuck my hand in a light socket.  Thank you Satin Pillowcase Gods, you are a keeper.

If you do have been on the fence about a Satin Pillowcase, take the plunge.  They are worth it!


My oldest daughter has stolen it and I now need to purchase another Satin Pillowcase… #lifewithdaughters

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Beauty Product Review- “Pearlessence Radiance Serum”

Today In “Beauty Product Reviews” I’m sharing with you my love for serums.  Seriously folks if I could bathe in serums I would.  I’m up to 8 steps in my K-beauty routine now, and my skin has never looked or felt better (yes I know I have a problem, but it’s a good problem to have.)

But serum’s are the bee’s knee’s ladies and gents. I could give you reasons for days but I’ll keep it to three

  1. They aren’t heavy or greasy
  2. Zero Breakout’s with serums verus creams or lotions
  3. They are multitaskers and can pull double duty as a primer

I recently came across a new one and decided to try it out ;

the  “Pearlessence Radience Serum.” 

The Review

Let me preface by saying my facd is “bipolar” at it’s best.   My T-zone has the tendency to be ridiculously greasy prone to acne that I like to pick at and the rest of my face would dries out like the Sahara! So serums are always the way to go for me.

I chose this particular serum because It contains Hydraulic Acid which is famous for hydration and plumping abilities.  The Vitamin C is an extra treat for my skin,  promising to brighten my face! 
Pearlessence Radiance Serum beauty product review

I used the pearlessence serum a.m and p.m for two weeks.   If  I need extra hydration like I do in this brutal winter, I add  layer of oil free moisturizer over the serum. I have a three step cleansing process (thank you Kbeauty)  Next,  I apply the serum on my damp skin.   I love the texture of serums, It’s similar to other serums on the market, this one though having a milkier color and a bit more viscosity.

The hyaluronic acid promises to lock in that water and help to make skin look tighter and plumper.   I use about 1/4 dropper for my entire face and let it air dry.  I love the dewy look this serum leaves, especially on Make-up free days.  For added efficacy you can use a micro-needler.  I use mine when I remember to, which is not as often as I should.

The Results

"Pearlessence Radiance Serum"Pearlessence Radiance Serum




Here is a link to Pearlessence Serum and some of their other products! 



My skin-care routine has now been upgraded to the Korean “Skins.” I’m currently up to 8 “skins” or layers.   It’s not as arduous as it seems.  If I do it quickly it takes all of 10 minutes.  The Pearlessence Radience Essence has now earned a spot in my “skins” routine.  I did see a major improvement in my skin texture and a little bit of lightening in my pregnancy melasma and dark spots.  Giving this particular serum two manicured thumbs up!

UPDATE September 21, 2018

I have been using this particular serum for about 8 months now religiously with about a million other products. It is still in my top three of products that I regularly include in my nightly routine.  I do see an improvement in my skin.  I would love to attribute it to the use of this product alone, I do think it’s a fabulous product but, I am obsessive about skin care.  So I’m sure it’s a combination of all of my products including this “Pearlessence Sin Perfecting Serum.”

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Does Cupping Really Work?

The ancient therapeutic art of Cupping is said to have been dated to as far back as 3000 bc but does therapeutic cupping really work?

What is Cupping?

Cupping is an ancient art of creating a vacuum with cups which are placed on the skin, where there is thought to be some sort of ailment, inflammation or congestion.  The vacuum is thought to cause a blood stasis and when removed pull out toxins and provide oxygen so healing can begin to take place.

The earliest record of cupping dates back to 1500 bc Egypt.  There have also been reports of cupping in ancient China dating back to 1000 b.c. Other ancient cultures also utilized the therapeutic art of cupping such as the greeks. Hippocrates, who was known as the father of modern medicine at the time used cupping for internal medicine.  The therapy soon spread thru the Asian and European civilizations each one having a different name for the ancient art and different medicinal uses.

Modern Day Uses for Cupping

One report in 2015 in the Journal of Traditional and Complementary Medicine, notes that it could help with acneherpes zoster, and pain management.

Other non-researched backed claims of cupping treated ailments include ;

Side Effects

Side effects to cupping include burns, infection, and bruises.  Please seek out a trained professional when looking for cupping therapy.

My Personal Experience with Cupping-Did Cupping Work?

I have chronic shoulder and neck pain having been diagnosed with fibromyalgia.  Not quite ready to accept that diagnosis yet and   I refuse to take the meds that make me walk sideways.  When my pain is more than I can bear I get massages and seek out other non-traditional treatments like acupuncture.  Luckily, my massage therapist Matthew is trained in some of the Ayurvedic arts and Cupping was one of them.

I was nervous but excited. I had heard good things about cupping and it’s benefits.  After my usual massage, Matthew pulled out his very mysterious cupping case.  He explained that some were heated, we were doing non-heated today, me being a cupping virgin 😉  He placed the cups from the afflicted area and proceeded to create the suction.  Matthew explained there are levels of suction, and that because I am new he would be going to a moderate level. I personally like a little pain (not in a weird way) so I didn’t find it uncomfortable.  Matthew then left the cups on for a period of time for the therapy to work.  I found this time blissful, but not as blissful as when the cups were removed.  When the cups have removed the muscle and the fascia are completely at rest.  My always tense muscles were completely relaxed, which NEVER happens.

Important Side note; Cupping leaves scars  for about a week that resemble giant hickies.  Cupping- Does it Work?

The Take-Away

I’ve had cupping done once more since originally writing this.  The effects last for a few days in my case.  With the reading that I have been doing, the lasting effects vary from person to person.  I will continue to have it done, I enjoy the temporary pain relief that only therapeutic cupping provides.


Read more reviews HERE and check out my friend Jenn’s Website “Jenn Reviews” HERE





Getting Your Feet Summer Ready

Winter is over and it’s time to pull those sandals out and get your feet summer ready.  But yikes, your feet are in bad shape!  Winter months are often the excuse to not have to buff, exfoliate, and polish, and by the time summer gets here our poor feet are showing the results of months of neglect.  Now it’s time to pull out the big guns- foot peels….foot peels summer ready feet

Does Intermittent Fasting Work?

Before we address that question let me explain to you a little bit about my sordid relationship history with food.  It closely rivals the relationship between Glenn Close and Michael Douglas in Fatal Attraction (minus the boiling bunnies.)

If you’ve been reading my blog lately you know I’ve been trying to lose weight.  I have been thin, overweight and everything in between, never having a healthy relationship with food.  Starting with attending weekly weigh in’s at weight watchers at thirteen.  Then binge eating shortly thereafter. One time, even going so far as to locking my sister out of the house so I could binge on Wonder Bread. Funny thing, I still remember the way it tasted over 30 years ago.  What wasn’t so funny, was having to take her to the ER for stitches after she put her hand thru the french doors trying to get into the house and my father’s rage at why I wouldn’t tell him the reason for locking her out.

Fast Forward to adulthood; After delivering my first child I discovered phen-phen, G-d I loved that stuff (Yes I said it) but the FDA took it away.  Said I might die so, fine.  Then I rebounded and gained weight, and had more babies and the roller coaster of lose & gain began.

Recently my brother in law lost tons of weight with the Intermittent Fasting method.  I had been seeing tidbits about this method in my FB feed and in magazines so I was somewhat familiar with the term but I needed some more information so I immediately began my research.

Intermittent Fasting- What is it?

Intermittent fasting first showed up on the health scene in 2012 when the BBC aired the documentary Horizon documentary Eat, Fast and Live Longer. and has steadily picked up momentum ever since.

Intermittent Fasting is basically time-restricted eating or an eating window.  There are many different types of fasting.  The most common being the 16:8 Fasting for 16 hours and eating for 8.  This can be personalized.  I, for example, do a six-hour eating window from Noon to 7.  This works best for me, it is suggested that your last meal be two hours before your bedtime.

Other methods are 24-hour fasting methods where you do whole 24 hour fasting periods two or three days a week.  One interesting type of Intermittent Fasting is the “Warrior Method” that is where you fast for 20 hours and eat what prehistoric man would have eaten for four hours.

Intermittent fasting goes on the belief or science of ketosis.  Basically in lay men’s terms if you don’t have food to burn for fuel you use your own fat stores for fuel, simple logic, right? In addition to that, they suggest basic eating do’s and don’ts below.
Does Intermittent Fasting Work?

What to Eat While Fasting

Just because your fasting doesn’t mean you can lose your mind when your window opens.  It is suggested you eat rather clean and low carb.  A low carb & high lean protein is recommended for best results.  While in fasting no eating hours you can, however, drink green tea/coffee with non-sugar sweeteners.  I found myself filling up with a lot of green tea.

Benefits of Fasting

Research has shown that Fasting has been known to have many benefits such as; Intermittent fasting decreases insulin in the blood, decreases cholesterol, and has been shown to reduce inflammation. I myself found that once I got over the initial slump my energy levels have increased and my belly bloat has disappeared.

My Experience with Intermittent Fasting

When I first started Intermittent fasting I knew it wasn’t going to be easy. I enlisted the help of my older children. You need all the support you can get when you’re dieting , plus no harm no foul if two fewer people to cook breakfast for 😉  I weighed in on day one at 142.  I vowed to exercise the majority of the week and I stuck to it.  I alternated between walking/running on the treadmill and doing fitness videos.  

Does Intermittent Fasting Work?

On the Intermittent Fasting Plan, you are encouraged to work out during fasting periods so your energy is taken from your fat stores.  Those first few days that was a doozy.  After day 3 of fasting, is when I think I got over the hump.  About hour 15 of fasting, I happened to be writing and looked at the time and realized I wasn’t hangry! I figured  I must be fueling off my own fat, unpleasant but reassuring thought that this diet was actually working.

Did Intermittent Fasting Work for Me?

YES! I had a couple of missteps because I’m human and married and eat my feelings. But from one Saturday to the next I lost 4 pounds! My daughter has lost 5, and my son is slimming down as well.  I am also cooking less breakfast 😉  The best part for me has been my tummy.  I’m sure everyone notices this too, but when you skip a meal your stomach immediately sorts of “deflates.”  I love that feeling, a  sort of immediate satisfaction.  That immediate satisfactions gives you that motivation you need to keep on going.

Here’s a quick summation or “Cliff Notes” for you!




Do Self Tan Sheet Masks Work?

I first stumbled across these gems in a department store,  I was immediately intrigued.  I’m always on the lookout for ways to get that natural looking glow.  It’s just an added plus if the glow lasts for days, instead of a make-up application that washes off immediately.  So of course I grabbed it and ran home to try this new mysterious product.

I had so many questions about the St. Tropez self tanning mask...Does it smell?  Does it last?  Does it streak like traditional self tanners?  I tried it out and am going to answer every  question for you, including the most important question,  DO THEY WORK? …

5 Minute Glowing Summer Make-Up Routine for the Busy Mom

When I think of Summer Make-Up,  the words that come to mind are;  light, airy, and bronze.  I want, well more like demand sweat and smear proof products. Yet the products need to be light and airy feeling,  basically the holy grail of routines and products.

If you’ve read my blog you know I can be a bit beauty product obsessed,  And after more than half of my life of doing my own make-up and now teaching my daughters to do make-up I think I’ve picked up a few tips and tricks.  I’ve also come to love a few “multitaskers” that have made my morning Make-up routine easier and quicker that I will show you below.

Summer vs Winter Make-Up

During the winter months I embrace my porcelain white skin and spend the time repairing the damage from the summer sun.  I hyper moisturize and flaunt my  pale tone with shades of pinks, plums and the occasional red.  Once the first blooms of springs have emerge I exfoliate those winter months and up the spf and reach for the self tanner and bronzer.  It’s time for a change and my skin is ready for it!

For my summer look I change up my look by subbing a brown liner for my black.  I also switch out my blush to a peachier tone.  If your not up to such a switch Nars Orgasm will work year around, it’s a cult favorite for a reason.

My all time favorite “go to” favorite product for the summer is bronzer, “never leave home without it!”   If you have a palette you can use a smaller brush with the lightest color to highlight your cheekbones, nose and chin.  Physicians Formula Summer Bronzer Palette are you’re perfect multitasking tool for the summer!

My CC Cream stays the same year around.  During  summer months when the thermostat rises I dilute it with a serum and add a finishing powder over it.  If I’m feeling too “pearly” ( A friend recently called me that, I took it as a compliment)  I’ll pass on the illuminating powder and use a matte powder.

And finally  I go over lids with a bronzy light color from my bronzer pallet then use a darker shade for the crease (depending on how strong my botox is holding on 😉  I always finish with a Blackest of Black Mascara no matter the time of year.


Seasonal Rule of Thumb  Summer/Peach-Warm Tones     Winter/Pink-Cool Tones 

Here is my Summer Make-Up Look Right Now

Shop my Summer Look here…

Foundation- It Cosmetics CC Cream Illuminating- 
Finishing Powder -It Cosmetics Illuminating Finish Airbrush Powder
Bronzer/Blush- Physicians Formula Bronzer Shimmer Strip ( I have used for years!)
Eye Liner- Physicians Formula Natural copper
Mascara- Loreal Lash Paradise-Black
Brows- Loreal Brow Plumper Medium 


My Summer Essentials













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