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Keaton’s video has gone viral now, seen almost half a million times.  The video is gut-wrenching to watch and makes the hackles on my neck rise as I tear up listening to him describe what he has to endure on a daily basis.  No one should have to go thru this. 

As a mother of four, I have dealt with bullying on more than one occasion.  One of my daughters was bullied in elementary school.  I had to file a “bully report”and class request every year to keep her out of the same class,  In order to keep their contact to a minimum.    Little was done about the aggressor’s behavior other than a slap on the wrist.   My other daughter’s experience was more traumatic and her physical safety was compromised and resulted in her transferring to a different campus’.  I will spare the details for the sake of her anonymity.

When Keaton’s story hit,  the question that once again came to mind was “Why?”… Why does this still happen?  Why does it seem like  schools still turn a blind eye to this?  Why do kids still not report these horrible activities?  Why have we not evolved as a society?    Am I expecting too much that I think we should just be nice to each other?  I’ve been accused of being too optimistic is this one of those circumstances?

So I decided to do some research on “Bullying” and this is what I found :

In my own school district I looked up our “Bullying Policy”.   Under “Consequences” the only that are listed are the consequences of the victim.  That was disappointing to say the least.  I would like to know what happens to the aggressor(s).  I was then directed to the site stopbullying.gov  which was basically a lot of facts and numbers SUPER!   Very informative, if I were writing a research paper on the topic.  From there I went to my individual state from their drop down menu.  Mine being Texas,  which is known to be tough on crime ( well that’s what I thought) until I got to the facts about Texas law and regulation vs’ whether these policies are stated in policy.  Guess what…NOPE.  The few consequences I did find were left up to the individual districts.  Which partly  explains why we have such a big bullying problem.  I am not claiming to know the answer, because If I did I would certainly solve this.  But In my very humble opinion I think much harsher consequence are needed to stop this behavior.

The Facts According to stopbullying.gov

  • National Statistics

    • Been Bullied

      • 28% of U.S. students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.2
      • 20% of U.S. students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.15
    • Bullied Others

      • Approximately 30% of young people admit to bullying others in surveys.3
    • Seen Bullying

      • 70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools.3
      • 70.4% of school staff have seen bullying. 62% witnessed bullying two or more times in the last month and 41% witness bullying once a week or more.3
      • When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.16
    • Been Cyberbullied

      • 9% of students in grades 6–12 experienced cyberbullying.2
        • 15% of high school students (grades 9–12) were electronically bullied in the past year.16
        • However, 55.2% of LGBTQ students experienced cyberbullying.17
    • How Often Bullied

      • In one large study, about 49% of children in grades 4–12 reported being bullied by other students at school at least once during the past month, whereas 30.8% reported bullying others during that time.
      • Defining “frequent” involvement in bullying as occurring two or more times within the past month, 40.6% of students reported some type of frequent involvement in bullying, with 23.2% being the youth frequently bullied, 8.0% being the youth who frequently bullied others, and 9.4% playing both roles frequently.3
    • Types of Bullying

      • The most common types of bullying are verbal and social. Physical bullying happens less often. Cyberbullying happens the least frequently.
      • According to one large study, the following percentages of middle schools students had experienced these various types of bullying: name calling (44.2 %); teasing (43.3 %); spreading rumors or lies (36.3%); pushing or shoving (32.4%); hitting, slapping, or kicking (29.2%); leaving out (28.5%); threatening (27.4%); stealing belongings (27.3%); sexual comments or gestures (23.7%); e-mail or blogging (9.9%).3
    • Where Bullying Occurs

      • Most bullying takes place in school, outside on school grounds, and on the school bus. Bullying also happens wherever kids gather in the community. And of course, cyberbullying occurs on cell phones and online.
      • According to one large study, the following percentages of middle schools students had experienced bullying in these various places at school: classroom (29.3%); hallway or lockers (29.0%); cafeteria (23.4%); gym or PE class (19.5%); bathroom (12.2%); playground or recess (6.2%).3
      • How Often Adult Notified

        • Only about 20 to 30% of students who are bullied notify adults about the bullying.13

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