The tradition of annual “Resolutions” began as promises to the gods over 4000 years ago by the ancient Babylonians. The Babylonians had great intentions, but unfortunately, more often than not resolutions have been reduced to unrealistic, lofty, and forgotten goals we set only to forget or regret.
They don’t have to be unattainable dreams we dismiss after a week if we just set our sights on more manageable goals. Smaller goals that don’t immediately set us up for failure have a greater impact on our lives in the long run. And for that reason, I have compiled 10 Realistic Resolutions for you and your family to get 2019 off to a great start whatever your goals may be.
Whether those goals are spiritual, physical, for your home or for your family there is something for everyone with every type of goal on this list. I hope you enjoy this post and scroll down for your FREE Printable Resolution Checklist!
10 Realistic Resolutions for Your New Year!
If your goal is to;
DON’T set unrealistic goals of “Marie Kondo-ing” your entire house and life in a weekend. me, it’s exhausting and you’ll end up with mounds of clothing laying around.
DO start small go out and buy a planner that fits in your purse. I found that I am “old school,” and work best with a paper planner. There is something about putting pen to paper that imprints it into my memory. It helps me to keep the kids’ activities, work, and chores on schedule.
If your Goal is to …
DON’T tell yourself as a married mother of 3 that you are going to start traveling the world or speaking French. Let’s get real mamas’ we have responsibilities, kids, needy husbands (aka extra kids)
DO take a once a monthly or bi-monthly continuing-ed class at your local university or community college. A few years ago I took a photography class at our local University and acquired some new skills that I will always need, met some new people and got out of the house! If your itching to get out of dodge, start small with a day trip somewhere. Familiarize yourself with the emotions and logistics that go along with solo travel.
If your Goal is to …
DON’T go out and spend buckets of money on January 2nd on a year-long gym membership you are only going to use until February 1st.
DO start with a daily walk for a half hour and do a few push-ups. Take your kiddos or hubby with you, it makes for some great conversations. If you don’t want to leave the privacy of home, pull up a free workout on YouTube!
If your Goal is to…
DON’T set out to save the world you won’t and can’t. If you have been reading my blog you know my favorite saying, “I know I can’t change the world but I think I can.”
Instead of trying to be Superwoman and fostering a child, no I am NOT knocking fostering I am just saying keep it real ladies- no hate mail please, volunteer at a local charity or school. If you aren’t hands-on pledge to give a certain amount every month to your cause. (Make sure they are a legit 501-c3)
If your Goal is to …
DON’T go out and buy a $300 juicer and a months worth of organic vegetables and proudly and naively announce to your shocked family you are now a vegan household.
DO the little things that could have a big impact on your wellbeing. Perhaps adding a multivitamin to your daily routine and scheduling a yearly physical. Many of us are guilty of only getting a yearly “squeeze and feel” A mammogram is super But when was the last time you had your cholesterol or hormone levels checked? You could be feeling tired because your Vitamin D levels are low, or your thyroid is off and a simple blood test let you and your doctor know and start you off to a healthier New Year.
DON’T try to go hard core strip everybody down of technology at once unless you want a full-on riot on your hands.
DO some baby steps for example, at my house, we don’t allow tech at meals and on Sundays, we are tech-free. At first, this was hard for me but now I find it refreshing and find myself looking forward to the one day that I am not compulsively checking for social media notifications. The kids will never admit it, but I think they are also a bit more relaxed not worrying about the amount of 👍.
Ok, for the love of Cloves, who still smokes? Whether it be smoking or any other bad habit, make yourself your priority again and quit self-sabotaging.
Encourage kids to try to change small behaviors. For example, my daughter hates homework like every other warm-blooded child. So, the first thing we do when we walk in the door before playtime is homework, while her brain is still “on.
A reward system is a good motivator, promise yourself a pedicure if you quit your bad habit or your kiddos a run thru DQ on the weekend if they completed their homework on time.
DON’T shove all of the kids in the car for an 8-hour car ride and expect it to be a joyful memorable experience. It’s more likely to turn into something similar to “Lord of the Flies.”
Instead, take baby steps, insist on dinners be exclusive to family time and be sit down dinners. Or maybe make Sunday’s exclusively for the family.
Another option could be taking the trusty planner from resolution #1 and planning one family activity a month that everyone votes on. That way everyone gets input in planning the activity and feels included in the decision process.
If your Goal is to …
DON’T expect for you to have oodles and oodles of free time to take lavish vacations
Instead, become a traveler in your home town. Have you ever opened up Trip Advisor “things to do” in your home town? It’s fascinating what other people have found to do, that maybe you have taken for granted, or merely overlooked or not visited in 30 years that has been renovated. Or instead of going to your “usual go to” restaurant on date night vow to try a new restaurant.
A lofty goal at best most time mamas right? But more “me time” is not only possible but necessary. Because “Happy Wife Happy Life!”
I’m not talking about eating bon bons and sitting on our butt all day. Start with taking a few minutes for yourself and a book. If baths are your thing, dedicate two-three nights a week to “tub time,” lock the doors and replace the bath toys with a nice candle or a glass of wine. You might find that your home is more harmonious if mom takes a few moments to yourself.
To keep you on task with your realistic resolutions I’ve put together a downloadable resolution checklist. Studies show people are 42% more likely to achieve their goals if they write them down so here you go!
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What are your New Years Resolutions? I would love to hear your thoughts!
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